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Hi Friend, How is your new week shaping up? I am so proud of you for being a person who wants more out of their life and is working to achieve your goals and better yourself.
You might be doing great but when you look around, are you starting to see others give up? They set this goal and now they’re already going back to old habits?
Clients have asked me before, “Andrew how do I motivate others to succeed, as well?” It can be frustrating to see those you are close to start things and then give up! I’ve run into this with my kids a lot, my wife and even in myself.
To answer your question, let me share a story. You may or may not know this, but I went through a bad period of being stressed, depressed and entertaining dark thoughts. It lasted for 9 solid months before finally getting so sick and tired of being sick and tired, I decided to do something about it.
If you had tried to motivate me anytime during those months, I wouldn’t have listened. Mainly because I was busy having a pity party and enjoyed blaming everyone else. I just wasn’t ready.
A lot of people say they want success, say they want to lose weight, make more money, get a better job. But they really don’t! And that is okay. We are all at different points in our journey.
You can try to push people out of their ruts, but they might be having fun in there. I wasn’t ready to listen until month 10 of being in that place. Who knows how long it will take others to be ready to listen or actually pull themselves out of the hole!
So what are you supposed to do in this situation?
The only thing you can do… love people where they happen to be in their life. Support them right where they are, realizing they might be at a different place than you in their life journey. When you are there for them, you will learn what motivates them and can just encourage that particular hot-button area!
It puts stress on your relationships when you to try to force others to succeed. And if you push, you will push them away. It shows you don’t support them in their struggles. It shows them your agenda is more important than theirs.
Are you ready to encourage and love others where they are right now? Leave me your comments and don’t forget to Like and Share this message. If you’re looking for more tips to decrease stress, better your relationships and uncover new strategies for success, join us by subscribing to this blog.
Thats it for today – I hope you have an amazing day
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I seem to be having a focus on success at the moment, thats because I’ve been mentoring someone who has been very negative and now they are goal focused and wanting to achieve, no more than achieve they want to succeed at whatever they put their mind to.
You won’t succeed in life unless you are connected to the right people. And those who enable you to succeed won’t always come to you; usually you must go to them.
Why do you think there’s a newspaper seller on every corner and a soft drink machine on every hotel floor? Success won’t come knocking on your door; you’ve got to go and find it.
Jesus didn’t set up a throne in the middle of each town and say, ‘This is the only place you can meet with Me’. No, He went to the marketplace, to the boats of fishermen, to the synagogue, to the homes of people. He ‘…went through the towns, preaching the gospel, and healing everywhere’ (Luke 9:6KJV).
What is keeping you from reaching out to others? Fear of rejection?
Until your dream becomes more important to you than your fear of rejection, you will never succeed. Successful people dread rejection too; the difference is that they believe their goals are worth it.
There are two kinds of people in your life: those who already know you have something they need, and those who don’t know it yet. So start a ‘people list’. The law of relationship says that every person is only four people away from the person they need. This simply means that you know Bill, who knows Judy, who knows Charles, who knows the person you want to get to.
You are already networked. Follow the dots and you’ll get to your destiny. Success always begins somewhere, at some moment, with someone.
The secret is, you must reach out.
I encourage you today to get these principles working in your favour. Don’t leave your success to chance — follow the laws and create your dream life!
Please take a minute to pass this message along to your friends, family and colleagues today. You never know who desperately needs this guidance and direction for their lives, so share this on your social media sites, print it out and pass it around or simply forward this email.
This is your life – make it count.
There is a phrase we use in our office all the time. It’s a very powerful phrase that really relieves stress and pressure and brings such a glorious freedom. “Everyone needs an editor.”
If you have ever felt an expectation of perfection in your work, you know the kind of stress that comes with that. The reality is, mistakes happen. And speaking from the perspective of a boss, we know that! We expect that. We do not expect you to be perfect – we just expect you to give it your best shot.
But for some reason, most people have gotten it in their heads that they have to be perfect and get everything right the first time, every time. That expectation of perfection causes you to get stressed out and to actually make more mistakes. It creates pressure, and that pressure causes you to manage your time poorly. Excellence, efficiency, and creativity absolutely do NOT flow out of pressure.
This is where an editor comes in. To edit, by definition, means to prepare for public presentation.
When I finish writing this letter to you today, there will be not one, but TWO editors who will go line-by-line to find any spelling errors, formatting mistakes, and inconsistencies. But imagine what would happen if I got offended when they pointed out the mistakes I have made? Imagine if I refused the help of these two amazing editors. You would be reading a letter that is FULL of mistakes right now
We need each other in order to succeed. We need other people to pull the best out in us – we cannot do that on our own! We cover each other’s weaknesses. Have you heard the phrase, “Two heads are better than one”? It’s so true!
So instead of getting defensive when I get this letter back after it’s been edited and coming up with excuses for why I made those mistakes, I say, “Oh, thank you for pointing that out!”
This is exactly what we have to do in life – at work, at home, in our families and communities. Everyone needs an editor!
What does an editor do? They correct mistakes. Yes, they correct you! They point out errors and help you to adjust, adapt, or change. And why? To help you get better.
How do you respond to correction? What do you say to your “editors” at work? (That may be your boss or your manager, or even your colleagues, who correct you in order to help you and the whole team grow.) Do you get defensive, and say, “Yeah, I know!” or “You know what I meant!”? When your faults are called out, do you rebel against the one who pointed them out? Do you refuse to hear what they have to say? This is total rebellion, insubordination, and dishonor. Rebellious and insubordinate people try to hide their faults, and they are not teachable.
So do not respond to correction with dishonor. Respond with honour and gratitude, because you NEED correction in order to grow, learn, and mature. You need correction in order to get promotions, raises, and bonuses. If you want to advance in your business or career, correction must be part of your life. So welcome correction! It is the only way you will get where you want to go!
Remember that pressure of perfection I told you about earlier? Correction – having an “editor” – relieves that pressure. Perfection can only come through correction.
In order to receive correction, you must be teachable. Teachability is the key to long-lasting success, no matter what you do. When – not if – we make mistakes, whether or not we are teachable will determine if we learn from those mistakes or if we continue making the same mistakes again and again. Teachability requires you to put your ego aside and be willing to learn from the “editors” in your life.
EVERYONE needs an editor! We all make mistakes. Editors help us to correct those mistakes and to learn from them. Then, and only then, we can mature and grow to the next level, whether that is in your job, your business, your home, or your community.
Who do you know that needs to be relieved of the pressure of perfection today? Who do you know that is struggling with feeling like they always just make too many mistakes? This would be a great way to encourage those people. I know this phrase has relieved pressure here in our own office, and it has impacted me in a big way as well. So just go ahead and forward this email to your friends, family, and colleagues, or post this link on Facebook and Twitter.
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